A Eunuch's Love Life

The more personally intimate blog of the love life of an androgynous but not sexless eunuch in this post-modern world

Sunday, April 29, 2007

Re: Gender Diversity in MySpace

Hi norrie
I've forwarded my response and this e-mail thread onto [names clipped for privacy] TGV Committee; Seahorse Yahoogroup Appetitefordeconstruction Yahoogroup; TMGP List - there's another 150 or so.

Please feel free to pass my e-mail to myspace around - it may encourage ideas for others.

Go get 'em!



Dear MySpace

I totally support the comments below regarding norrie mAy-welby and for that matter any person to be allowed to express their gender they way they desire, not the way a "system" desires.

I also ask why myspace needs to ask this it all, as you don't ask people's race, religion, sexual orientation or other attributes.

I also ask how myspace would want people who legally have "I" on their birth certificates to identify. I am sure that to ask them to commit a lie and break the law would be inappropriate.

Please consider other options for this question, including "do not wish to answer."

Thank you for reading this response.

Yours sincerely

Sally Goldner
bcc norrie mAy-welby

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Support Gender Diversity in MySpace!

It's turning into an e-campaign! Come on, join the call to get norrie mAy-welby into myspace! I mean, to get my own myspace ; )

I am currently blocked from myspace.com because the sign-up page insists I list myself as either male or female, and neither is unambiguous for me, okay, I mean, you probably don't need my life story to support my call for equal participation of all humans regardless of breeding status, but by the way, I'm post-transsexual, born with a willie, identified as female, did the whole transsexual sex change thing, got into feminism and Foucault and other friendly F-words, gave up hormones, and am now quite comfortable with being myself however others see me. And comfortable with everyone being themselves as they are. Hallelujah!

E-Mails to au-mscontact@myspace.com and cc to me nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au please. We could be at the start of a documentable change from exclusion and reducing humans to categories, flowing on from one site changing its policy of excluding humans who aren't just exclusively male or female, to other sites, to all sites, to other bureaucratic media, to an acceptance of human diversity predominant in the collective human conciousness. love for humanity and for our experiential reality informing our emotional reality, peace love and perpetual bliss! Ohm!

Wishing all y'all Peace, Love and Joy

norrie mAy-welby

----- Original Message -----

Dear Myspace Administrator

I was upset to hear that Norrie mAy-welby was unable to use the myspace service. Shouldn't a web log site called "My space" allow for the space to be customised to the individual, including ones gender. This would surely allow the user to claim the space as theirs.

Please consider allowing all people to share your service.

On 18/04/2007, at 4:21 PM,

Dear My Space Administrator,

My name is and I am a friend of norrie mAy-welby, who has expressed concerns about having to adhere to being either male or female in subscribing to your service.

Whilst such restrictions are in no way limited to your particular service, I would nonetheless urge you accommodate for gender diversity in order to maintain an even more progressive level of inclusiveness- a value that myspace is reputed for.

Until this matter has developed positively, I will be forwarding these emails through my networks, which include a diverse audience, I can assure you.

Thank you for your attention, we hope to hear from you soon.

norrie mAy-welby a écrit :
I am still waiting to be able to sign up to myspace. I am still blocked by the compulsory choose-one-gender-only field. I want to sign up to be a "friend" of a gender queer peformance site. It's ironic that I am still blocked by your system's continued insistence on reducing every human being to a normative breeding status, and excluding all those unable or unwilling to be so reduced. It's 2007, and utterly anachronous to insist on everyone having a normative breeding status, male or female, no intersex, hermaphrodite or gender diverse humans can apply, in the computer age!

This matter having been brought to your attention well over two months now, with yet no sign of progress, this post and your reply will be going to e-mail lists for those interested in the progression of this matter.

norrie mAy-welby

----- Original Message -----
From: MySpace - AU - MSContact
To: nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au
Sent: Wednesday, February 28, 2007 12:02 AM
Subject: Re: Report - Content [#2217230]

Hi there,

Thank you for sharing your comments and suggestions. We consider them important and will take them under advisement.


--Original Message--
From: nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au
Date: 2/8/2007 4:20:50 AM
To: au-mscontact@myspace.com
Subject: Report - Content

Subject: Report - Content

The sign up page is innappropriate for people who do not
wish to state their part in human reproduction, nor for those
who do not have any part in human reproduction. For
example, and case in point, I am biologically neuter, and
socially androgynous, and have no wish to hurt my soul by
falsely descriing myself as "male" or "female"

Monday, April 16, 2007

It's all 2 beautiful

I've just enjoyed a lovely weekend at Regen, where the hills were truly alive with music. Vibrating, that is, around the clock, with the deadliest mother fucking bone-making sound systems. I had gr8 company, some excessively high quality flirting, and bliss sleeping with my best friend. I'm not in love with him, but I do love him, and I'm not sexually attracted to him, but I do appreciate how utterly beautiful he is.

In between dreams, in the otherworldey light of the tent, I gazed with loving wonder at the "imperfections" on his skin, and felt overcome with gratitude for this experience, being able to appreciate the divine shining beauty inherent in this and every human being.

An utterly beautiful boy that said best friend and I flirted with on the weekend just sent me a lovely text, and I am so flattered that I am considerable flirtable by such an utterly angelic boy. And with that thought, I look at myself in the mirror, and thinking about such a lovely person who found me attractive, I can see that. That utter beauty, in the mirror.

Even in the imperfections.

And then, there are no imperfections.

Just divine beauty, the manifestation of divine love.

Yeah, hey, even the in wrinkles, and it's good I learnt to love them, because there will be many more, many, and deeper, and they all deserve and are worthy of love, of similar quality as the divine love that manifests our physical reality, "Within you," as the Beatles say, "and without you," (to complete the quote).

Who loves you, baby.

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Tuesday, April 10, 2007

In Between

Here I sit, in between youth and old age, between male and female, between Christianity and Anarchy, between fat and skinny, in between and touching both sides at once, in between the ego and the All, in between reactive fear and daring all for Love, in between the counter culture and the violent stupid hairless gorillas, in between loving all humanity and misanthropy, in between being a flamboyant dancing star and a bookish social cripple. In between a Platonic relationship and a beautiful loving and fulfilling relationship. In between seeing how old and wrinkly and gravity shaped I am, and seeing how radiantly beautiful I am when I look with love. In between sabotaging my chances with boys by thinking about past failures, and experiencing the more enjoyable flirting I get when I look on the world with love. In between pre-post modernism and the bright new world. No, that’s flogging it, should’ve quit with “flirting I get when I look on the world with love”, but didn’t want to be revealed as self-obessed dirty old queen. In between expecting more of myself and being okay with myself as I am. In between, and in both sides at once. Present, in between the past and the future. Between a single thought and the collective minds of humanity. Ohm Nama Shiva. I’m sorry, I’ll read that again.

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